As I pack away the summer clothes, letting go of sunshine memories and preparing for the chilly fall air, I reflect on my dating life. Dates are like the changing seasons.
As I pack away the summer clothes, letting go of sunshine memories and preparing for the chilly fall air, I reflect on my dating life. Dates are like the changing seasons.
A lot of the letters I get asking for advice are from people who worry they'll never find love. "I'm 27 and still single!" they wail, or "I'm almost 30 and all my friends are married!" And while it's certainly natural to desire love and companionship and to get a little antsy about finding it, the idea that time is running out or that one should be married or at least in a long-term committed relationship by a certain age is not only wrong, it's potentially damaging.
Having a good relationship with your therapist is priceless, which is why author Susan Shapiro says she lost it when her therapist "abandoned" her by moving away and she was left alone to work through her issues.
Enter exhibit A: Female, 40 years old, single, career woman, no kids, victimized by 10 unsuccessful "hookups" per year since the age of 35.
I realize it might seem a little early to start talking about the holidays, but as my local drugstore pulled out the tinsel and Santa hats before they'd even had time to put away the slutty nurse costumes and plastic pumpkins, I figured I'd get a jump on the season.
I can sum up in three "acts" the breakdowns and breakups of most relationships since the beginning of time:
Liz Lemon, the self-professed relationship neurotic character on "30 Rock" recently became famous for her book on deal breakers.
For all the ballyhoo about Black Friday, the crown jewel in the holiday shopping calendar has been something of a bust for retailers. That's led to a shift in how the day is being handled this season.
There are only two reasons why I'd move in and live with another girlfriend. We're married and determined to fill a sweatshop with our nimble-fingered love critters.
Say you're getting married. Maybe you've had a few serious boyfriends before. Perhaps you were even engaged to one of them. Or you might have just had a series of one-night stands that never turned into more than a few steamy stories you told the girls about over a pitcher of sangria.
I'm tall. I mean, I'm really tall. And I don't mean 5'10" tall. I'm 6'1". That's ridiculously tall. Kermit the Frog once said: "It's not easy being green." Well, it's not easy being a tall woman, either.
If you thought your friend was about to make a mistake -- say, buy a computer that gets a ton of viruses or stay in a really dodgy hostel in Rome -- you'd try to convince them to do something different, right?
Like the David Letterman Debacle wasn't bad enough, now we have the story of Steve Phillips, the ESPN analyst, who had an affair with a 22-year-old coworker.
Want to boost your spending power? Try giving your wallet a break by shopping at a dollar store. Americans have embraced the four leading chains -- Dollar General, Family Dollar, Dollar Tree and the 99¢ Only store -- in droves during the recession.
When a friend of mine who's dipping her toe back into the world of online dating recently asked for three quick rules to remember when e-mailing potential matches, it occurred to me that if she needed a bit of a refresher course, some of you probably do too.
There are dealbreakers and then there are dealbreakers -- and a past history of domestic violence is a dealbreaker on a lot of people's list.
My plane landed after midnight last night. I could use about six more hours of sleep, and I'm not sure where, exactly, I stashed my hairbrush or my deodorant. Maybe I took a bath two days ago, but I honestly don't remember.
Men should buy women flowers. They are colorful. They smell nice. And without them, flora would never get laid. To many, purchasing flowers is cliché or corny or tacky. And to others, it's an outdated ritual in our modern era of gender equality.
One of the first times I went on a date with a girl, she asked me, "Are you bi or gay?"
In the three months or so since my wedding, I've had a chance to reflect on how my life has changed as a married woman. There are a few subtle differences (extra ring on my left hand, saying the phrase "my husband," cooking with fancy pots and pans), but the truth is, life hasn't changed much.
I used to be one of those self-righteous types who declared I'd sooner break up with a man than stoop to snoop.
Mindy Perlmutter was having a birthday party, but this was not just your garden variety, chocolate cake, two kinds of ice cream, balloons, and a piñata type soiree. No, this would be an affair to remember.
Is it over yet? Is the tough national economy healed? Is it time to sing, "Happy days are here again"?
Who was the first person you called the day your ex dumped you? Or that time you found a weird bump? Or the day you stumbled across that pair of barely worn Christian Louboutins at the Goodwill?
In the three months or so since my wedding, I've had a chance to reflect on how my life has changed as a married woman. There are a few subtle differences (extra ring on my left hand, saying the phrase "my husband," cooking with fancy pots and pans), but the truth is, life hasn't changed much.
One of the first times I went on a date with a girl, she asked me, "Are you bi or gay?"
Lust, love and like. A healthful, happy love relationship serves up three out of three. A healthful, happy love relationship is a passionate best friendship.
I've been writing relationship advice for nearly ten years now and the number-one question I get asked -- by readers and friends alike -- isn't anything filthy or even fun. It is: "How come I can't meet anyone?"
Huge, scary numbers are lurking everywhere these days: The massive federal bailout (now on the taxpayers' tab)...the unemployment rate, which is now at a 26-year high...that daunting sum you are constantly told you will need if you want to retire comfortably...the six-figure mortgage balance you barely chip away at each month.
The battle for your toy dollar is on! Wal-Mart and Toys "R" Us are just two of the giant monster mega-toy sellers going head to head this holiday season.
I'm not going to lie and say I have never hooked up with a coworker. I have. That said, I don't think it's a particularly good idea.
My grandmother had a saying: "People are funny when it comes to money." She could have been talking about me.
When you have a name like María de la Soledad Teresa O'Brien, you have a lot of explaining to do. My mother is black and also Latina, more specifically Cuban. She is a devout Catholic who credits the Virgin Mary with any success she's had in this country. But it was my father, a man who spoke no Spanish, who chose the name María de la Soledad to honor the Blessed Virgin Mary of Solitude ("solitude" in Spanish is soledad).
The two of you are inseparable. You're every romantic comedy cliché come to life. He's the cream in your coffee. The Jim to your Pam -- not that you even remember who they are, because with all the lovemaking, you hardly have time to waste on sitcoms like "The Office."
Tricia was depressed. That was her only problem. Although her life had all the right ingredients -- successful husband, decent job, close-knit family -- Tricia felt so low that she sometimes threatened suicide.
Finding a boyfriend is only the beginning when it comes to relationship woes. Once you're in one, you have to deal with another person, including the parts that annoy you despite your love for him.
Dear Wendy: I've been dating a guy for eight months and in April we decided not to see any other people. I should say that we're in a long distance relationship.
When I was a teen, I tried to read the entire Encyclopedia Britannica. My goal: Memorize its contents, be on TV game shows, win cash and prizes, run away from home, move to Manhattan and become a professional writer.
Blame my older sister, the kindergarten teacher, but I believe in the Golden Rule. Whether you're my boss, my intern, my boyfriend or my third-cousin-twice-removed, I will treat you with the same amount of respect as everyone else.
Lisa Diamond's research associate keeps her voice deliberately neutral as she talks through a microphone to a couple in the next room.
A gaggle of girlfriends and I were sitting around drinking beer and bitching about our crappy love lives one late night when my buddy Marguerite shared something a wise relative had once told her: "The three most dangerous words a woman can say are, 'He has potential.'"
The official unemployment rate inched up three-tenths of a point to 9.7 percent in August. Not good news, obviously; it's dangerously close to the psychologically devastating 10 percent mark.
We're not mothers yet, but we're at a point in our lives when we're thinking about our future families. We know an awful lot about women and how to treat and please 'em, so we plan to pass that knowledge down to our sons.
You'll never see a dude turn to another dude and ask, "Do I look fat in these pants?" But that doesn't mean men are invulnerable to insecurities, no matter how much we'd like to think so.
Not long ago, frustrated that my 3-month-old refused to sleep in his brand-new crib, I posted the following on Facebook: "Patty is wondering why Will hates his crib so very much."
Jaycee Dugard and her daughters are preparing for another happy homecoming: with their animals.
Stop -- don't pull out that credit card until you take our experts' good-buy test! If you can answer yes to most of these questions, go ahead and make a guilt-free purchase.
We are creatures of habit; we love a good routine because doing the same old same old doesn't take much mental effort. But getting stuck in certain ways of thinking can hinder our ability to both enjoy and respond effectively to new situations. Like a body, the mind needs regular stretching to stay agile and resilient.
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